I was at a wedding last weekend, it was a beautiful joining of two young lives. As we sat in the crowd witnessing the vows and listening to the pastor I couldn’t help but let my mind wander a little bit as I heard the familiar passage from Matthew 19:5-6
For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.
Here were two young 24 year old kids starting life together, full of passion, hope, and expectation. It was exciting to be a witness to this union, made all the more so because they have made the Lord the foundation of their lives.
Young new love is exciting. Being older, divorced from a difficult marriage, with kids (mostly grown) and having been on my own for many years, love is still exciting. But it is a little scary too. I know what pain is, I know what loneliness feels like. I have experienced the shattering of hope, and the sorrow of broken dreams. I have looked at the story of my life from every angle and for a long time I did not think it would ever again include love. But it does.
I don’t want to make the same mistakes. I don’t want to settle into behaviors and patterns that will ultimately lead to discouragement and pain. I have a lot to offer and I want to know that it is safe to love completely, unguarded, and with abandon. This doesn’t just happen without a strong foundation in the Lord. Matthew 19 is a great passage talking about marriage and it is often limited to just referring to the physical coming together of a man and woman, but I believe that Matthew is going deeper than that, I believe that becoming one flesh includes – and in fact needs – to have its foundation on the Lord. Growing together in Him, in His word, seeking His will, and learning His ways is the bond that holds a man and woman together.
I want to grow spiritually with my mate. Right now, our foundation has a few cracks in it and the only way to correct that is with Christ as the support.
Isaiah 28:16 Therefore, thus says the Lord God, “Behold, I am the one who has laid as a foundation in Zion, a stone, a tested stone, a precious cornerstone, of a sure foundation: ‘Whoever believes will not be in haste.’”